Italian associations call to legalize surrogacy based on the ‘international coalition for surrogacy ethics’ that emerged from MHB’s Brussels conference
announced their support for the “international coalition for surrogacy ethics” that was formed at the Brussels conference. The four include Famiglie Arcobaleno (Italy’s LGBT parenting association), Associazione Luca Coscioni, Associazione Radicale Certi Diritti, and UAAR. They joined several other organizations from the USA, Europe and Israel that already endorsed MHB’s set of 12 parameters for the ethical use of surrogacy that were developed in collaboration with an advisory committee comprised of surrogate mothers.*
MHB’s 2nd Brussels conference marks the emergence of an international coalition for ethical and viable surrogacy legislation
For too long we let lies and distortions about surrogacy go unchallenged! There are some small groups of anti-surrogacy zealots in Europe, one of them had about a dozen protesters in front of our conference in Brussels on September 25, 2016. They held signs of pregnant women with barcodes on their bellies, and others with crossed-out babies that were supposedly sold. Read More...
Brussels conference offers European gay men hope of parenting through surrogacy and adoption in the USA and Canada
With over 2000 gay couples and singles worldwide, including 700 in Europe, the nonprofit organization Men Having Babies (MHB) is dedicated to easing the path to surrogacy parenting for its members. For several years MHB has been providing unbiased guidance and financial assistance to prospective parents in the USA, the UK and Israel. On May 2-3, 2015, the organization held its first conference in continental Europe, in collaboration with the LGBT parenting organizations "Meer dan Gewenst" from the Netherlands and "Gay Surrogacy UK”.
The “Brussels Conference on Parenting Options for European Gay Men” attracted more than 200 prospective gay dads from 10 countries, well above original estimates. "We were overwhelmed and moved by the large attendance and intense desire for parenting expressed by men who came from not just neighboring France and the Netherlands, but also from as far as Ireland, Portugal and Bulgaria,” said Ron Poole-Dayan, MHB’s executive director.
The high demand forced the organizers to add an overflow room where dozens of attendees watched the presentations via live video feed.
The conference brought together community activists, medical and legal experts, parents and surrogate mothers. Several workshops and panels offered peer advice on surrogacy and adoption of children from the USA, finding and picking professionals to help in the process, and information about MHB's Gay Parenting Assistance Program (GPAP). “Even with the easing of legal obstacles to adoption by gay men, the reality is that across continental Europe there are very few domestic adoption opportunities,” said Anthony Brown, MHB’s board chairman. "Meanwhile, domestic surrogacy is either illegal or unavailable, and societal attitudes are much more hostile to surrogacy compared with those in the USA and England.”
To help prospective parents navigate the precarious legal landscape vis-à-vis gestational surrogacy, the conference offered country-specific panels with leading European legal experts.
To try to understand the unique attitudes on surrogacy in the continent, a round table of legal experts, social scientists, and community activists discussed “Legal and societal challenges for gay fatherhood across Europe, and the road ahead”. Their analysis pointed to a unique combination of lingering homophobia, general discomfort around assisted reproduction, concerns about possible exploitation of poor surrogates, and a mistrust of the perceived American commercial culture.
“We were aware of how sensitive the subject is, given the current political debates across Belgium, France, and the Netherlands regarding surrogacy and assisted reproduction legislation,” said Poole-Dayan. “However, we were surprised by the misinformation and hyperbole in some of the initial media coverage. A major Belgian newspaper actually claimed that we are ‘selling babies,’ and pointed to survey results of average expenses reported by parents, calling it a 'price list’.”
The conference's resource fair included more than twenty clinics, agencies and community organizations that help gay men through the process of either adoption or surrogacy in the USA and Canada.
Much of the misinformation revolved around the inclusion of service providers at the conference's resource fair. “The fact that we have to pay for professional services on our path to parenthood does not mean that we are 'buying babies’, just as using a dating service does not imply that one ‘bought’ their husband or wife,” said Poole-Dayan in an interview to Belgian public radio. “We are not legislators, so the most we can do is encourage transparency, and empower prospective parents, surrogates and practitioners to make informed decisions."
Large number of TV, radio and news journalists featured interviews with MHB board members, surrogates, European parents and conference attendees.
While the media coverage before the conference included some surrogacy critics, by Monday the tone changed and the prominent newspaper 'De Standaard' led with the headline “I would give an arm for a child” ("Ik zou mijn arm geven voor een kind"), highlighting the strong yearning of European gay men for parenting.
Following the conference numerous prospective parents expressed their appreciation and gratitude: "This conference opened a complete new world for us,” wrote one couple, “it truly helped us to cement our conviction about parenting and to start planning the next steps,” wrote another. “It was stunning and somehow uplifting to see over 200 gay men intensely looking for parenting options they did not have in Europe but the US offered to them,” wrote a social science researcher. A Belgian couple commented on the media coverage: "There was an item in the news today and a rather positive one. Lets hope this will spark a turning point and will raise the awareness in a good way.”
In a reception for International Family Equality Day, a clown helped entertain children who came with their gay dads from Germany, the Netherlands, Belgium and France.
Conference organizers in the USA and Europe hope to continue to build on the progress achieved at the conference. To that end, a collaboration meeting took place with representatives and activists from the Netherlands, the UK, Belgium, France, Portugal, Ireland, and Switzerland. They resolved to work on the expansion of the Gay Parenting Assistance Program (GPAP) to more European countries, the formulation of ethical standards for surrogacy, and developing resources and tools to improve the visibility, awareness and acceptance of gay headed families formed through surrogacy. "It was amazing to see so many guys from Europe dreaming of a family, and it’s great that we can help them in this process,” said Marc Faber from Meer dan Gewenst. "However, based on what heard form some journalists and politicians, there is a lot work to do in Europe. I hope that together we can make much progress, and I think that the Netherlands can help lead this effort."
Currently only residents of the USA, Canada, the UK, and Israel have full access to GPAP’s benefits that include over a million dollars worth of cash grants, discounts and free services for surrogacy and adoption in the USA. Arrangements are now expected to be made for these benefits to also be available to Belgians, Dutch, French and possibly residents of additional countries. GPAP is made possible thanks to support from MHB's loyal partners, including the conference's Platinum Sponsor, Worldwide Surrogacy Specialists. “We were excited to speak and meet with so many wonderful future parents and professionals from all over the world,” said Jennifer McArthur who represented Worldwide Surrogacy at the conference.
Upcoming Men Having Babies conferences include Chicago (Sept. 20, 2015), NYC (November 15, 2015), and San Francisco (Jan. 23, 2016).
MHB's Brussels conference attracts unprecedented media attention, sparking debate about surrogacy and gay parenting
Parenting Options for European Gay Men” conference held in Brussels May 2-3 attracted more than 200 prospective gay dads from 10 countries, and intense media attention. This came amid increasing political debates across Belgium, France, and the Netherlands regarding surrogacy and assisted reproduction legislation. While criticism came from both the right and left sides of the political spectrum, we had our say through numerous interviews with our board members, the surrogates who came with us form the USA, European parents and conference attendees. Read More...
MHB is accepting applications for the Gay Parenting Assistance Program, appoints administrative coordinator
Men Having Babies is now accepting Stage I applications for the Gay Parenting Assistance Program (GPAP), and the organization estimates that in 2014 the program will distribute over $500,000 in cash grants and pro-bono surrogacy related services offered by more than a dozen clinics, agencies, and law firms. In the coming weeks eligible applicants will receive certificates that will provide them access to discounts of up to 40% from participating providers. They will then be invited to submit Stage II applications, and those selected will receive grants and / or matched with providers who will provide them services for free. Read More...
As previously reported, new surrogacy dads are now wanted for an unprecedented study of new parents in the UK, France, and the Netherlands. The 3 year study will focus on male couples who became parents through surrogacy, compared with groups made of heterosexual surrogacy parents and lesbian headed families who were aided by donor insemination. Read More...
Fertility Authority features our network in a report titled "Gay Parenting Information Sources Growing"
It quotes the network coordinator, Ron Poole-Dayan, saying that while he and his partner had no idea where to start on the intended surrogacy journey 12 years ago, “today the multiple options and ocean of information may actually make the process more overwhelming... The Men Having Babies network and the Men Having Babies seminars go a long way to help gay men in New York — and now also in Europe — to be introduced to the reputable clinics and agencies that have been helping our community for a while, and to get a good introduction to the subject from experts and peers."
Click here to read the article on Fertility Authority’s website.
Click here to read the article on Fertility Authority’s website.
At the October NY Men Having Babies workshop we hosted a TV crew filming for the Portuguese “Frontline” documentary show. The show aired on November 30th, and indeed it includes a nice clip from our meeting. They show also includes a rare interview of 11 year old gestational surrogacy kids (children of Ron and Greg from our group) about their origin and family makeup. Read More...
"Men Having Babies" - a annual Surrogacy Seminar and Exop in NY since 2005 - makes a debut in Europe on April 29, 2012 - Part of four-day LGBT families gathering near Barcelona, Spain.
The Network of European LGBT Family Associations (NELFA) will host the first "Men Having Babies - Europe" Surrogacy Seminar and Gay Parenting Expo on April 29, 2012. It will take place in Lloret de Mar, near Barcelona, Spain, as part of a 4-day conference and family gathering expected to attract hundreds of LGBT parents and parents-to-be. More than a dozen leading USA and European clinics and surrogacy agencies already signed up as sponsors and exhibitors, recognizing the growing interest in surrogacy in Europe. Read More...